When Leaving Is The Only Option

"If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." 

We have different ways on how we deal with issues in our life. Others are very upfront. They voice out the issue right away, and try to find a solution to the problem by talking to the person involved. While there are some people who'd rather choose to remain silent and wait for things to change on their own without even addressing the issue. And there are those who would rather leave when it becomes too hot in the kitchen. 

There was a point in my life when I badly want to leave. If only I had anywhere else to go, I wouldn't stay where I am now. Actually, the desire is still present. I want to leave because I couldn't take the heat anymore. I felt like I'm going to lose my mind anytime. I couldn't stand everything that's been going on around me lately. Unfortunately, I have nowhere else to go. So I stay. 

People want to leave due to a lot of reasons. When respect is no longer being served. When they feel like they're being taken for granted. When they feel like they don't belong. When they feel like they're giving their all, but it isn't being reciprocated or appreciated. When they feel like the environment they are in isn't healthy anymore. When their presence isn't being valued anymore. When they feel like they're already being a doormat of other people. When they already feel uncomfortable. When they're no longer happy with where they are and who they are with. When their efforts are being undervalued. When things become too much to handle. When it already feels like they're being suffocated with everything that's been happening. People leave when they feel like their presence is no longer needed or wanted. People choose to leave when staying becomes more painful. People leave due to differences with one another. 

People leave when they see other opportunity better than what they have. They leave when they feel like a change of environment would make them happy. They leave when they feel like they need personal growth. People decide to leave before they lose all their respect with their colleagues, their family, or their significant others. Sometimes people leave before they become the one to be left alone. When people decided to leave it only means that they have the courage to stand up for what they want. 

At times, people choose to just leave instead of resolving an issue. For me, when a person decide to leave instead of solving a problem, it only means that the person they have an issue with is no longer important to them. Since they're willing to left it behind than to fix what could've been fixed. They choose to leave instead of solving the problem. Personally I think it's unhealthy, because you can't run away your whole life. At some point, you have to face the issue and even the person that you ran away from. Maybe time can heal some wounds, that when you see the person you have an issue with you're both past it already. But that's not always the case.  

Leaving isn't always an easy decision. It entails a lot of thinking. Especially when you're already too attached with everyone or with the environment that you're gonna leave. It's not always what you want, but you know it's for the best. Sometimes leaving is the only option. One thing that you have to realize when people choose to leave is that nothing is permanent. Things change. People leave, so don't tie your happiness to them. When people leave, make sure that you don't lose yourself, too.

Some goodbyes are necessary. Some goodbyes are inevitable. Some goodbyes are painful. But for what it's worth, life must go on with or without whoever. 

au revoir. 😊