Sat With Ree: Love Language
Love is probably one of the (if not the most) powerful words. You can do things you thought you weren't capable of because of love.
People have their own different love language. Some of us are very vocal when it comes to telling the people we love how much we love them. While there are some who are more into action. They occasionally tell the people they love that they love them, they just let their actions speak for them.
People nowadays are so grand in showing their love towards their significant others. They are willing to go the extra mile just to prove their love to their partner. Other people don't like to be showered with material things because what matters to them is the time they spend together.
Sometimes people won't believe you love them until you've done something they thought you could never do. For an instance, there are some girls who hate their partners smoking. Although when they met, they were already aware that their partner smokes. Then all of a sudden when they became a couple, girls feel so entitled to make them quit smoking. Then they would feel victorious once they did. Worst case scenario is that they would break up with their partner because they aren't willing to do what they want. It's as if their boyfriend or husband is a charity case that they need to attend to. I mean, you could have told them the moment that you were still dating. And why are you even trying to change your partner in the first place? You probably have an idea of their bad habits when you met them. And if you really can't stand it, you should have stopped seeing them before things start to get serious between the two of you. You won't get to the point of being their girlfriend, or their wife. It's your partner's decision to want to change for the better. You don't have to force them just because you think you should. It's not your responsibility.
To be fair with girls, there are some boys who are only good in showing their love during the start of their relationship or when they were still in the courting stage. Then they'll show you their real self once they win you over. Wouldn't it be easier to just show your true self and not try to pretend to be somebody that you're not? Because eventually, they'll find out your true character. Boys shouldn't stop doing the things they do when they were just pursuing their partner. One of the secrets of a long-lasting relationship is that they never get tired of showing their partner how much they mean to them.
Actions and words go hand in hand when it comes to building a strong relationship. It's not enough to just tell your partner everyday that you love them, you have to show it to them. Other times your partner need to hear you say that you love them, eventhough your actions already speak so loud. Some of us need reassurance.
We all have our own way/s to show our love. It doesn't matter how grand or how plain it is. Whatever your love language is, make sure that the person you're showing your love to will feel the love that you are giving. Make sure that you are exerting an effort to show your partner how much they mean to you. Always make them feel special not through gifts, but by showing them that you appreciate them and that your life wouldn't be the same without them in it. In the end, they would barely remember the thing that you gave them during their birthday, but they will never forget that one time when you chose to ditch your plan with them just to be with your friends.
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