How To Be Okay With The Things That You're Not Okay With

How to be okay with the things that you're not okay with? Hmmm... Honestly, it's hard. But it's possible.

Sometimes life seems to be difficult to handle, including people. They have their own way of disappointing us. As much as possible we want to avoid the feelings that we feel towards a certain situation, but we just can't. We have to bear the pain. We have to deal with the situation whether we like it or not. We have to act okay with the things that we're not okay with, even though inside we're dying. We have to pretend we're not hurt. We have to act normal like nothing is wrong. Even if all we want to do is scream at the top of our lungs. We want to scream out of anger, disappointment and pain. But we cannot. We should not. We don't have to. 

Every time we feel that way, we have to hide our true feelings. Even though we know that what we feel is valid, at the back of our mind there's this voice that tells us we're only being sensitive. That we shouldn't feel that way. That it is wrong to feel that kind of emotion. We second guess what we feel and gaslight our own self. In an instant, we became our self's biggest enemy. And I think that's the worst thing that could happen. Because at the end of the day, you have to be your own best ally. People will disappoint and abandon you, so you have to be on your own. People will treat you unfairly. You have to make peace with yourself. You have to be your own confidante.

You may not feel okay with how things are going on around you, but you have no other option other than to face them. Even if circumstances aren't in your favor, you still have to act normal. You shouldn't give any power to whoever or whatever to take control of your emotions or create a chaos inside you. 

You won't lose if you wouldn't let your emotions get the best of you every time. You have to always be stronger than your feelings. That doesn't mean that you have to invalidate your feelings. You have to acknowledge them to figure out where they're coming from. From there you would know how you can control them. You would know why you feel what you feel. And you are the only one who knows how you will be able to control them and keep your sanity despite the bad things that's been going on around you. At the end of the day, your peace is more important than anything. 

au revoir. 😊