Sat With Ree: How To Adapt To Change

Heraclitus once said, "Change is the only constant in life." I don't know whether it's a good or a bad thing, but one thing is for sure, it is the truth. So, how do you deal with sudden change that happen in your life especially if it is a drastic one?

Change is an inevitable part of life. At times we don't see it coming. We fear change because of the uncertainties that lie behind it. We fear change because we only want to settle with what is already familiar to us. We are afraid to try and experiment because we are afraid that we won't get to experience the same things twice. 

One of the things that I learned in this life is that it is true what they say, "nothing in this world is permanent." If you are not a believer of that, just look at how this covid-19 pandemic has turned the life of many to a complete 360°.

Change could be scary at times. Who would want to deal with changes? As much as possible we want everything we have now to be permanent, particularly if we have the best things in life. Not to mention the people we have. We never want to lose the family and friends that we have. We want them to stay in our life forever. 

In dealing with change, we have to acknowledge it. We won't be able to accept these changes if we are always trying to deny them. We have to see that things are totally different now from what they used to be. 

You don't have to fully accept these changes all at once, but you have to decide to accept them. You can take baby steps when it comes to dealing with them. Focus on the now. You won't be able to accept the new things in your life if you are always thinking about the past. If you are always thinking that the past is better than the present, you won't fully enjoy the good things that are happening now. Do not dwell in the past because we are in the present. 

We can't always control everything that is happening around us, especially the changes that might happen. We have no control over the people around us, and we really don't want to. The things that we own will eventually get broken, so we need to find a replacement. The situation we are currently in is going to change at some point. The best thing that we can do is to cherish everything that we have at the moment. Because time will come that things are going to change whether we like it or not. So, we have to appreciate everything and everyone in our life now. That in the end, we won't have any regret that we didn't value them enough. But of course, as Stephen Chbosky said, "Things change, friends leave. And life doesn't stop for anybody." Life must go on amidst all the changes that is happening. C'est la vie.

Things have to change, and sometimes all we can do is accept them. No matter how much we want for certain things to go back to the way they once were, we can never do that. All we can do is learn to embrace these changes. We may not want it at first, but let us believe that things change for the best. You might get disappointed for a while, but try to see the silver lining behind these changes. There is always good in the bad, and vice versa. In the end, it's always how you see things. Either you see the glass half full or half empty. It's really all about perspective. 

Changes in our life have to happen for us to grow. We have to experience these changes for us to see that there are still better things than what we are settling for. Without these changes, we won't be able to realize that sometimes being uncertain is good.

Sometimes it's good not to be too attached to things or to people. It's better if we don't always let sentimentality rule over us. It's best if we let ourselves be aware of the fact that everything in this world is temporary.

The key is to not see things as how they once were or how they should be, but to see them as they are. 

au revoir.😊