Sat With Ree: Kumusta?

Trivia: Exactly one month to go and (if it's God's will) it'll be my 30th year here on earth. 

Some of you would probably say "eh ano namang pakialam ko?" Wala lang share ko lang just in case gusto mo akong bilhan ng gift. Send ko na lang sa'yo yong screenshot nong laman ng cart ko. 😁 Charing. Pero kung seseryosohin mo naman hindi naman ako magtatanim ng sama ng loob. Just send me an e-mail if you are interested. LOL. 

Anyway...have you already read my last blog? Bakit naman hindi mo pa binabasa? Ikaw naman. Nakakapagtampo ka naman. 'Yoko na nga. Uuwi na nga ako. 😒

Minsan sa life kailangan mo talagang lumayo o dumistansya kapag alam mong nasasaktan o binabalewala ka na. Hindi masama na bigyang importansya din natin ang sarili natin. Huwag tayong magpakamartir kasi ang martir ay binabaril sa Bagumbayan. Char. 😄

When it becomes too hard for you to breathe anymore and your surrounding gets too suffocating it is not selfish to remove yourself from the situation or even distance yourself from people that bring you stress. Paminsan-minsan kumustahin mo naman ang sarili mo. Tanungin mo siya kung okay lang ba siya? Ano ba ang lagay ng puso niya? Kumusta ba siya? At sana kapag ginawa mo yon huwag ka naman sanang magsinungaling sa sarili mo. Sarili mo na yan, uy. Huwag kang sumagot na "okay lang ako" kung hindi ka naman talaga okay. 

Sometimes the source of our unhappiness is from the things that's going on around us. When things go wrong we have a tendency to blame our self but in reality we have nothing to do about it. We don't need to associate our self with everything that's been going on around us. Let us try to just focus on our self and on the things that truly matter. Not everything needs our reaction. It doesn't necessarily mean that we will forget the people around us. It only means that we should choose who or what is worth investing our energy and time. Do not try to pretend that you are okay with everything that is happening around you. Your peace of mind is important.

Do not try to deceive yourself and conceal what you truly feel. You can put a fake smile for the show but you know deep in your heart that there is something that's been bothering you. You have to be real with yourself and with what you truly feel because time will come that you have to face it. 

Learn to acknowledge your feelings and know that every emotion is valid. You are not overreacting. More than anyone else you know yourself better so it's not other people's duty to tell you how or what to feel. 

After accepting the fact that you are not okay know the source of your stress. Try to do something about it if you can and if not learn to accept the fact that there are really things that are beyond our control. No matter how much effort we exert there are things that we have no power over with and all we can do is to just let them be. In the end everything will work out the way it was supposed to be. So why worry? This might sound cliché but always know that everything happens for a reason. The outcome may not always be what you desire but in the end it is always better than what you wanted. 

Cry when you need to cry. Laugh when you find something hilarious. You are entitled to be disappointed on the things that other people might find insignificant but to you matter a lot. You are free to celebrate every milestone in your life no matter how big or small even if it's just cooking a hard boiled egg.

Good and bad news is that nothing in this world is permanent. It is true that the only consistent in this life is inconsistency. Surprisingly life has its own way of taking a complete 360° turn. If you don't believe it just look at how this covid pandemic is affecting us. Pre-pandemic some people hate their job so much but because of covid most people lost their job. Before covid some people didn't even want to go to their own home but due to covid people are not allowed to leave their house unless it is necessary. Just look at the turn of events.

If your heart is not in a good place right now you should know that you will feel better. But that doesn't mean that your feelings don't matter or that you will deny what you truly feel. Tomorrow you'll feel better again. It might not literally mean tomorrow but surely it will be sooner rather than later that your heart will be in a good place once again. As I said nothing is permanent in this world that's why it's okay to feel lost or broken sometimes. It's part of life and every challenges that we face was meant to strengthen not only us but also our faith in God. No one's life is perfect. We all experience hardships and we all struggle at times. 

Read Ecclesiastes 3 1-8

Asking for help when you need it won't make you weak. It just goes to show how strong you are because you are willing to share you struggles with others. It simply means that you are not afraid to open up to others and that you don't pretend that you are okay. You are willing to face what you truly feel. Sometimes behind a simple "okay lang ako" lies a multiple of meaning. 

It's important to find someone whom you can share your struggles and the things that you are going through. But you should never forget that yourself is your biggest support. You should know how to make yourself happy. You should know how to cheer yourself up. You should know how to make yourself a priority. Most importantly you should know how to love yourself especially on days that your are not the easiest person to love. Because how can you love others when you don't know how to love yourself? Or how can you take care of others if you don't know how to do it for yourself. As the saying goes "You cannot give what you don't have." 

You cannot seek help from others if you are not willing to help yourself. It is not other people's job to make you happy because it is yours to fulfil. Only you know how to make yourself truly happy. Never depend your happiness to things or people because (for the nth time) nothing in this world is permanent. You should not be afraid to be all by yourself especially when the people around you become the main source of your unhappiness. Never be afraid to detach yourself from toxic people who only drain your energy.  

No matter what you are facing right now you should not forget that you are never really alone. God is always with you. He sees what you're going through and He knows what's inside your heart even before you confide in Him. He is the best therapist that you will ever need. You won't hear answers from Him but you will feel how He changes your heart gradually. He might not change the circumstances that you are currently in but He will surely change your approach towards it. Only He has the power over anything so we can be sure that we can always lean and trust in Him because He will surely never fail us.

Ciao.😊