Forgiven But Not Forgotten

Forgiveness is definitely one of the hardest to give. It's easy to say that you've forgiven someone who has hurt you deeply. But the real question is how genuine the forgiving is.

It's not that easy to forgive someone especially if you cannot forget the damage they did to you. It's like every time you try to convince yourself that you should forgive them, because holding a grudge isn't beneficial, what they did to you keeps replaying in your head. You know you have to forgive for your own peace of mind, but most often than not it's easier said than done. You cannot force yourself to do something you don't feel like doing. It's hard to get past something especially if it had made a great impact in your life.

Forgiveness only happens when you can finally let go of the grudge you've been holding on to towards the other person. It happens when you see the person who created a scar in your heart and they no longer get on your nerves. You're not mad anymore. The pain is probably still there, but you chose to get past it. Forgiveness happens when you no longer want to give the person who hurt you the control over your life. You no longer want to be slave by your emotions. You're choosing peace over any drama. You can say that you've forgiven someone when you decide to move forward with your life and leave the past where it belongs— in the past.

However, there's a huge difference between forgiving and forgetting. Some people are so good at forgetting while some are not, (e.g me). There are people who can easily forgive, but at the same time so good at remembering. Sure they can forgive the person, but they will never ever forget what the person did to them. Even if many years have passed they could still vividly remember everything that happened.

Forgiving someone is hard, but it's one of the best gifts that you can give not only to the person involved, but especially to yourself. It does not necessarily mean that you need to associate yourself again with the person. It only means that you no longer want to feel trapped from an unending cycle of hatred. It means that you're setting yourself free and clearing a space to make a new room for the things that truly matter in in your life. 




au revoir. 😊 

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